Once you've experienced the horrors of war, it seems you never can escape it. "There's Always Something There to Remind Me," as the early 60s song by Burt Bacharach and Hal David goes. Yesterday morning, for example, I was dumbstruck by an unexpected sharp reminder of what I experienced in the Central Highlands of Vietnam almost 42 years ago during the brutal Tet Offensive. There I was in Bread Alone, one of the tonier of tourist-filled establishments on the main street of Woodstock, with a bagel and a latte. As I stirred raw sugar into the latte, I glanced back at an elegant 40-something woman placing her order. BAM-POW - the air swooshed out of me as if I had been punched in the solar plexus. She was wearing a faded-green satin jacket emblazoned with the words, Plieku, Vietnam. One of the typical GI slogans of the day, "When I die I'll go to heaven because I've spent my time in hell!" encircled the colored embroidered image of South Vietnam.
I approached her, "Excuse me, but I ran supplies to Pleikiu in late 67, early 68. Are you the daughter of a Vet?"
"Oh, I'm sorry," she replied. "No, I went to high school in Manhattan in the early 80s, and there was a thrift store near the school that had bunches of these jackets. A bunch of us bought them and wore them. We thought they were cool. I've kept mine after all these years and wear it from time to time."
Cool? What could I say? Nothing really. So I wished her a good day and went out into the bright sunlight of a beautiful morning, deeply breathing away the dark images from that faraway place that never is too far away in memory.
Who Sometimes Asks Poetically-correct Questions
August 9, 2009
Taking stock at 65
Michael Uhl, Walpole, Maine -- July 2009
These disastrous mornings
mortality swirls round me
cut to pieces at the Mayo
Sister Peggy on the coast
a virtual streamer
broken like a doll
Nothing like a wedding
to spice the family madness
The selfish son estranged
damaged by war
no less than the father
T is cruel to give a flower
then pluck it back
Do not deceive yourselves:
The contemplative life
does not a contemplative make
You have to work at that
On these embattled mornings
Tour the morning garden
in the lee of the solstice
A hundred perennials to greet
A multitude of colors set their roots
by beautys calendar
Early bulbs and wild flowers
take first bow
Trout lilies spread the ground
with mottled leaves
Lady slippers glimpsed
where least expected
drop violet stars in every bed
Across the stone embankment
pink phlox creeps
The deep hued columbine
rise like corn
on stalks of grape and magenta
And in the dooryard
lilacs bloom their therapies of perfume
to rival sweet rugosa rose
in powers of intoxication
On and on it goes
Everyday an old friend newly found
and as we gain we lose
No fleeting flower
can slow the ticking clock
These flashes of forgetting
are but a steady keel
to steer the stormy days
There is no cure for life
A Poem by Lee Ballinger, Los Angeles
Twenty years ago when I moved to California
I went to Wells Fargo to open a bank account
The teller was young, beautiful, Vietnamese
My first thought was
"You know, I might have fucked your mama"
My second thought was
"You know, I might have killed your mama"
I took my receipt
And threw up on the sidewalk
And you wonder why I have trouble sleeping?
You wonder why I broke the lamp and punched a hole in the wall?
You wonder why road rage makes me feel so good?
My body came back but not my mind
I will always be ten thousand miles away
Lee Ballinger, Los Angeles
Used with permission of the author
Sermon by Reverend Kurt A. Kuhwald
The Legacy of War: A Son's Story Sermon by Reverend Kurt A. Kuhwald, November 12, 2006
Berkeley Fellowship Of Unitarian Universalists, Rev. Kurt A. Kuhwald, Minister [PDF format (recommended)] [MS Word format]
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